I had a phonecall from one of my oldest adult friends. As in, one of the friends I didn't have going through school or Uni. And oldest as in one I have known for the longest period of time. He isn't yet 40. So not the oldest.
We were chatting about a number of non descript and random things, people, events. Nothing life changing. Our ailments and injuries were as close to life changing as we got.
However, one of the random sentences stuck with me. One that should not bother me, historically. But it left me thinking nevertheless.
The sentence; "I caught up with the guys for Yum Cha this morning." That's all very nice. It's ok that I wasn't asked; 11 am dining in the city is not for me any more. It's over an hour away for me and I do enjoy a sleep in.
However, it is sometimes hard to accept that the people that you were closest to have drifted away, and that there is very little left to salvage. Too many things have changed.
I thought this the last time we went to dinner. I wasn't sure if it was my paranoia or not. But it seemed that things had completely changed. Six years have passed since my last significant relationship ended. Back then, these friends were our mutual group and so the break-up caused a few issues in relation to that. Events transpired. Events that I will cover at another time.
At this point none of it really matters. The past is past and the future is still to be written; I would like to think that these friends will still be in that future, in some form. I guess that will be up to me. My hope would be that they would have my new partner as the same part of our lives as the old one; that those stories would still be as funny as they once were. Who knows.
I will have to organise a dinner. At a time I can get to and still have my sleep in.
We were chatting about a number of non descript and random things, people, events. Nothing life changing. Our ailments and injuries were as close to life changing as we got.
However, one of the random sentences stuck with me. One that should not bother me, historically. But it left me thinking nevertheless.
The sentence; "I caught up with the guys for Yum Cha this morning." That's all very nice. It's ok that I wasn't asked; 11 am dining in the city is not for me any more. It's over an hour away for me and I do enjoy a sleep in.
However, it is sometimes hard to accept that the people that you were closest to have drifted away, and that there is very little left to salvage. Too many things have changed.
I thought this the last time we went to dinner. I wasn't sure if it was my paranoia or not. But it seemed that things had completely changed. Six years have passed since my last significant relationship ended. Back then, these friends were our mutual group and so the break-up caused a few issues in relation to that. Events transpired. Events that I will cover at another time.
At this point none of it really matters. The past is past and the future is still to be written; I would like to think that these friends will still be in that future, in some form. I guess that will be up to me. My hope would be that they would have my new partner as the same part of our lives as the old one; that those stories would still be as funny as they once were. Who knows.
I will have to organise a dinner. At a time I can get to and still have my sleep in.
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